The Value Of A Smile In Public Speaking

Imagine standing at the lectern. You see the many smiling faces of those in your audience. Your countenance, however, says anything but that you are glad to be there. While you may not be thrilled at the prospect of giving that speech or presentation, if your face displays your displeasure, how enjoyable will your delivery be for those who are in attendance?

If you read most articles and books on the subject of public speaking, they will tell you that there are only 3 reasons for public speaking: to entertain, to inform, or to persuade. In truth, however, all 3 of the above should be entertaining. And, while the sole purpose of the entertainment speech is obviously to amuse your listeners, why would you not want your informative or persuasive speech or presentation to be entertaining as well?

If your visage expresses your nervousness, your fear, your discomfort, or your anxiety, do you honestly think your delivery will be one that is enjoyable, engaging or gratifying? Your tone of voice, your facial expression and your body language convey your emotions. If all these factors are instead conveying your angst, then it is a guarantee that your audience will feel your anxiety as well.

A smile takes much less work than a frown and it certainly is more pleasant to view than an immobile face exuding pain. In addition, inducing laughter for both you and your audience releases endorphins, the body’s natural painkillers. Thus, if you laugh during your presentation or speech, your will find your body relaxing which will make your delivery that much easier. Not that I am advising you to deliver your material with a perpetual grin on your face; but, if you are able to add humor at various times throughout your presentation, you will discover one of the best means of controlling your nervousness. An added bonus is that your audience’s response to your humor will bolster your confidence.

When you first enter the stage or walk to the front of the room or to the head of the boardroom table, do not concentrate on your nervousness or your fear. Instead, concentrate on those in attendance and smile at them. The secret is to place more of your focus on them and less on yourself. As you begin your delivery, remember this advice and let it carry you throughout your presentation or speech. You will feel more confident, you will look more confident and you will sound more confident to boot!

Miracles That Hydrosal Gel Can Do For Your Facial Sweating

Problematic due to facial sweating? Are you suffering from persistent head and facial sweating and have tried numerous remedies to no avail? Then you among all people already have the idea about the difficulty in finding the right solution that actually works. True enough, there are a lot of creams, gels and perspirants in the market that promise good results. You can also try Botox to temporarily stifle your sweat glands. While these are all qualified alternatives, there are some products that work well and are at the same time economical, easy to apply, and definitely effective.

I would like to introduce and commend a very convenient antiperspirant gel called the Hydrosal. It comes in a stick deodorant form, and can eliminate sweat gently. It works on the spot, and can end your facial sweat problems starting right after application. It is used topically, and it is mild enough to allow everyday application, working in just minutes.

Episodes of facial sweating and blushing actually make up a cumbersome cycle of perspiration. Sweating can be caused by a wide array of factors, but then, regardless of the cause, it seems to automatically cause itself eventually. You sweat, then you get embarrassed because of the sweating, and then sweat the more out of embarrassment. Even if anxiety was not the culprit for your excessive sweating, you begin to sweat the more because of anxiety. Sometimes it really feels useless to be tackling which came first, just like the common age-old question regarding the chicken and the egg.

But then, management would depend on the priority. Since excessive facial sweating may be either of two conditions (primary hyperhidrosis or secondary hyperhidrosis), it is necessary to identify which is which. Primary hyperhidrosis is excessive sweating because of overactivity of the sweat glands. An overload of nervous stimulation underlies the sweat gland overactivity. This condition runs in families. Secondary hyperhidrosis is due to an underlying medical condition which may need immediate attention. In cases of secondary hyperhidrosis, the main objective is to identify the underlying condition, and treat it.

Hydrosal gel provides a cure for either of both categories, but it can be considered of greater priority as a treatment for primary hyperhidrosis. Although controlling your emotions, your diet, and stimulant intake may mitigate a little bit of sweating, these are not complete solutions. There ought to be a physical intervention to begin with. This is where Hydrosal gel plays its role!

If you had tried applying antiperspirants to your face, you might as well know that this does not work most of the time. Some formulations are even too strong for the skin, resulting to rashes, aside from the blushing.

The produces or Hydroxal Gel found a middle ground whether to prioritize comfort or effectiveness when it comes to excessive facial sweating. Fifteen percent of the gel is composed of aluminum chloride, which actively stops sweat through blocking the sweat pores. It also has salicylic acid, a beta-hydroxy acid, to condition away the dampness. The salicylic acid is oil soluble, which is why the Hydroxal Gel is easily absorbs the oil in your skin, eliminating the shiny appearance. The gel is very convenient to use – simply apply a pea-sized amount in the morning after showering.

Share Ideas of Love and Watch it Grow In You

My earliest memory of “connecting” with Spiritual material was perhaps when I first read Eckhart Tolle’s The Power of Now. I couldn’t really explain it at the time, but his ideas spoke to something within me. The Spiritual text began to make sense on an experiential level. As I shared in his thoughts, it was as if the ideas took on a life inside. I was activated. The power of these shared ideas subsequently became the catalyst for a spiritual quest.

Like any idea, when it is shared it grows. Something is activated in others and the idea itself appears to expand, never lessened. Viral videos and music are great symbols of how ideas, when shared, can grow and seemingly take on a life of their own. People watch or hear something, they too resonate with the content, and pay it forward –and share. And in the age of Facebook, Twitter and Youtube (to name a few), the means to which ideas are shared is in abundance. Ideas have the ability to gain in strength as instantly as they are given to the world.

Being spiritual aspirants, this is good to know. The laws of shared ideas is a key element to our awakening. The more we share and gather in the idea of truth, the more that truth will experientially reveal itself. The idea of love grows as we demonstrate and share in it. This is a central teaching of A Course In Miracles.

The Course says “The Holy Spirit is the idea of healing. Being thought, the idea gains as it is shared. Being a Call FOR God, it is also the idea OF God. Since you are part of God it is also the idea of yourself, as well as of all his creations.”

In other words, as we share in the idea of Spirit, we actual strengthen OUR awareness of Spirit. Being a symbol of truth (Spirit), it’s a call to truth. And given that Spirit is inclusive of us, is a call to the truth of who we ALL are. When we share in this idea, we share in our truth as Spiritual beings.

The Course reminds me that “The idea of the Holy Spirit shares the property of other ideas because it follows the laws of the universe of which it is a part. It is strengthened by being given away. It increases in you as you give it to your brother.”

From this perspective, my inspiration for sharing anything, A Course In Miracles or Spiritual related, is rooted in my desire to know truth – knowing that as I share it, I’m strengthening the reality of those ideas within me. With that intention in mind, I write, blog and video post about Spirituality on my site. And for the first time, I just started hosting FREE conference call gatherings. These mediums (blogs, videos, tele-gatherings etc) serve as backdrops for deepening the understanding of Course principles and Spiritual practice. The invitation is for others to gather and share in the same idea, and together, we awaken. It is an inspired way of strengthening awareness of OUR Spirit.

Watch Out for Your Gremlin!

Have you ever heard of a Gremlin? A Gremlin is a nasty little monster that rides around on our shoulder all day whispering or talking or yelling all sorts of negative things into our ear. It says things like “Who do you think you are?” “You don’t deserve to be successful,” or “You are such a failure.”

Gremlins get in the way of our being successful, such as in a midlife career change. The Gremlin represents the negative conversation that constantly goes on inside our head. But we are usually not aware of this conversation. We don’t hear our Gremlins. We don’t know that he/she/it is there, and yet we make decisions based on what our Gremlin is saying to us. Does this sound familiar? Can you think of decisions you have made that hurt rather than helped you because of that negative self-talk?

The only way to move ahead is to learn to make conscious choices and to do that we need to know what our Gremlin is telling us. We have to start noticing when our Gremlin is around and what it is saying. Only then will we be able to move past our inner obstacles, our limiting beliefs and be successful in our lives.

The concept of the Gremlin comes from the book “Taming Your Gremlin” by Rick Carson, and I use it with almost all of my coaching clients. I help them learn to become aware of their Gremlins and then to tune them out or at least turn down the volume so that they can hear their own thoughts. Some clients tell their Gremlin to take a long walk on a short pier or to just “shut up!”

One client imagined a dial on the front of her Gremlin and when he became too loud, she would reach over and turn down the volume knob. Another client imagined her Gremlin as a backseat driver in the car of her life, and when the Gremlin got too obnoxious, she would turn around and tell him, “I’m driving this car, so please shut up!”

The whole point of working with the Gremlin – or whatever you want to call that voice – is to be able to make your choices consciously. So the more you become aware of the conversation, then the better decisions you can make. You get to choose. You can ask yourself, “What do I want? Do I want what my Gremlin is telling me or do I want something different? What is going to be the best for me?” Then make your choice and act on it.

What is your experience with your Gremlin? What are some of the things he/she/it says to you? Do you have ways of quieting the Gremlin’s voice?

Children Watch, Listen & Learn What They Live

Ever wonder why people are the way they are or where they learned to be a certain way? We cannot discount the influence of upbringing, peers, environment and genetics. Although we have very limited or no control over some of the things that shape our children, we can do our part to make a positive difference. We teach them by the way we treat them and the way we treat others. We can lead them by our example and how we react and cope with people and situations. It is empowering and encouraging to know that children can learn love and happiness when it is manifested in our own lives. They watch… they listen… they learn…they copy, and it becomes what they live. The greatest reward we can ever receive as parents is seeing them live out the beautiful qualities of truly happy and healthy children who grow up to make their own positive contributions to the world and the lives of others.

Below is a very beautiful poem that can inspire us all to do our part in being a positive influence in the lives of children as they learn what they live. May we guide them and help them learn from the good and the bad, inspire them to walk in integrity, live with security, confidence and love, and be the best they can be!

Children Learn What They Live

If a child lives with criticism,
He learns to condemn.
If a child lives with hostility,
He learns to fight.
If a child lives with ridicule,
He learns to be shy.
If a child lives with shame
He learns to feel guilty.
If a child lives with tolerance,
He learns to be patient.
If a child lives with praise,
He learns to appreciate.
If a child lives with encouragement,
He learns confidence.
If a child lives with fairness,
He learns justice.
If a child lives with security,
He learns to have faith.
If a child lives with approval,
He learns to like himself.
If a child lives with acceptance and friendship,
He learns to find love in the world.

~Dorothy Law Nolte Ph.D.

If you want your children to improve, let them overhear the nice things you say about them to others. ~Haim Ginott

Kids go where there is excitement. They stay where there is love. ~Zig Ziglar

Live so that when your children think of fairness and integrity, they think of you. ~H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

When did we ever get the crazy idea that in order to make children do better, first we must make them feel worse? Think of the last time you felt humiliated or treated unfairly. Did you feel like cooperating or doing better? ~Jane Nelson